06.23.05 - Trust
This is an interesting subject. How do you know whether to trust someone or not. There could be someone that you have known for many years and never trusted because he/she has proven that they can not be trusted. Or, you may have known them for many years and just have a 'gut' feeling about them. Then, there are people you know who seem normal, but they usually turn out to be axe murders or something. "Well, he/she seemed to be so normal" I think 'so normal' can be unnerving for me. There are also people who seem like they are definately psychopaths, like that guy they just let in to the USA from Canada with the bloody chainsaw. But I seem to have gotten off track here. There are also people that you may meet on the internet or through blogging. You really don't know anything about them except what they tell you, and that's totally on the honor system. I'm rather skeptical of people, but I feel I'm usually a good judge of people with just having a little interaction with them. How much do you folks trust people?
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Trust.
When I was a little girl, I had a friend who invited me to his birthday party. I bought him a dart gun. He opened it, pointed it right at me and shot me in the eye.
Did you know that I have a glass eye?
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fugusashi, At
June 23, 2005 11:53 AM
no, I did not know that. What a horrible thing to have happen. That would surely damage one's trust. Thank you for sharing that.
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:phil:, At
June 23, 2005 12:10 PM
It's rather uncanny how pretty much everyone gets thown some real crap at some point in our lives.
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:phil:, At
June 23, 2005 12:27 PM
I take people at their word and trust just about everyone until they show their untrustworthiness (is this even a word?!). After that, I still have faith that people can change if they want to.
Paula, your story made me so sad. I hate that this world is full of douchebags. Karma got him though, don't you worry about that.
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Chloe, At
June 23, 2005 2:02 PM
For the record, I think Paula's great! I never met her, I stumbled upon her Blog. Very entertaining writing, great sense of humor and wit. I would trust her totally.
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:phil:, At
June 23, 2005 2:19 PM
right back at you, phil. I totally trust you too.
I cried alot at first about my glass eye, but a glass eye is really no big deal in the long run. It's fun at parties.
Chloe, that boy was no douchebag. I was totally infatuated with him and thought everything he did was funny. He was the first boy I ever kissed, but he never would kiss me again. I did some crazy things to get him to notice me, but it just pushed him to do meaner things to me to get me to leave him alone. my mother always asked me, "If you think he's mean, why do you keep going back for more?" Well, infatuated girls can do some pretty crazy things. Whenvever I run into him now, he asks me to take out my glass eye and show it to him. I think he gets a kick out of it.
His mother ran over my dog. I'm still a little upset about that.
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fugusashi, At
June 23, 2005 4:02 PM
He'd never kiss you again + he gets a kick out of your glass eye = proof he's a douchebag. It seems his mom is one, too. I guess it's true what they say about the apple not falling too far from the tree.
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Chloe, At
June 23, 2005 5:32 PM
you're probably right chloe. i'm just stupid.
Phil,
I hope you don't mind my asking about this Ursula in your therapy group. If she's that obnoxious and disruptive and everyone hates her, why doesn't the therapist send her a private letter asking her not to return to the group? Maybe she's not too bright. If she tried to come back, could they block the door?
Also, do you really totally hate her? Is there anything you like about her? Sorry for being so nosy.
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fugusashi, At
June 23, 2005 8:04 PM
Oh Paula, you aren't stupid, and I hope my comments didn't imply that I thought you were. You seem loving and optimistic, neither of which is bad.
As far as Ursula's concerned, it would be far more therapeutic for her to face the contempt of the group head-on so that she can work through it. Her callous behavior is probably masking some deep-rooted insecurities; shunning her would only reinforce her distrust of the world and increase her reliance on defense mechanisms. When the group confronts her, healing and transformation will take place. Now I'm just rambling so I'll put an end to this. Would you believe that I'm working on a Master's in Marriage & Family Therapy?!
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Chloe, At
June 23, 2005 11:18 PM
Paula, I don't think you're stupid at all. Forgiveness is a quality that is not easily expessed (which gives me an idea for today's topic) As far as Ursala goes, I don't really hate her. I was in 'rare' form the day I wrote that. You should have seen what I wrote, then deleted. She does, however, tend to dominate the group meetings. The facilator does try to keep us on track, but she tell us it's really our group and it's up to us to let it be expressed as to what we need from the group. Also, the day of Ursala's greatest offense, when a night when the facilatator was not there. She does tend to blabber on and on, she's REAL drepressed. Just a week or so ago, she decided she would give an anti-depressant a shot. I'm not a big pill-pusher, buy hey, if you're going through cancer (her case is lung cancer from smoking-to which she denies there is any connection-Hello?????) you may get just a wee bit depressed at times. My therapist suggested that I confront her in the group and explain that the group is for all of us and that if I ask Tony a question, I want to hear Tony's response. Then if you have a comment, feel free to share, but it not the Ursuala Hour, Hmmmm.... maybe I do really hate her after all.
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:phil:, At
June 24, 2005 6:50 AM
Thanks for answering Phil!
I like your perspective Chloe. Let's hope that works out for Ursula.
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fugusashi, At
June 24, 2005 10:58 PM
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